Jacob and Elijah Shaddox are brothers. They live with their mom, Mary, who is the writer of this blog. Jacob is 19 and is now four inches taller than his mom! He also has ADHD and gorgeous red hair. He is a freshman at a technical college studying computer maintenance. Elijah is 15! He is in 9th grade and he is not in ROTC at his high school. He also had red hair, but it is lighter and not as thick as his brother's hair. He is hearing impaired(auditory neuropathy) and wears two cochlear implants. He also has tourette syndrome, ADHD, OCD and anxiety! Mary just started her 25th year as a teacher of the deaf. She is also in her last semester of graduate school to be a diagnostician! She will graduate in December of 2015!

Thursday, March 25, 2010

Parenting Decisions

Having a child means having to make decisions. Some decisions are easier than others. The first big decision is picking out a name for that new baby, or it may be even deciding TO get pregnant! Jacob was an easy child. There weren't a lot of "hard" decisions to be made with him. I decided to breast feed, we picked out a sitter, what kind of formula and so on. As Jacob has gotten older there have been harder decisions. One of the hardest things I did was let him go on an overnight trip at school. He did great, of course, but I was a basket case. He was in 5th grade and a mature kid, but OH it was hard. There will be more decisions ahead...letting him take the car for his first solo drive after getting his license, trusting him to make good choices when he is off with his friends, and later allowing him to leave home to go to college or just live on his own and work. Of course, he may choose to stay here a while! Ha!

There were a lot more decisions to be made for Elijah: To implant him or not when we found out he was deaf. Choosing doctors for all of his issues. Choosing a school when he was THREE and then letting him ride a bus to and from school at this time too. Choosing to put him in a behavior classroom due to his behavior with tourettes, OCD and ADHD. Again, there are more and more decisions that will have to be made as Elijah gets older. I think the hardest thing will be "growing him up" meaning letting go of my baby and expecting more from him. I have done that to a certain extent, but it will only get harder as he gets older.

I guess I now know why my mom worried so much about me, but she let me make my decisions as I grew up and learn from my mistakes. I hope I can do the same for my own kids.

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