Jacob and Elijah Shaddox are brothers. Jacob is 21 years old and just moved into an apartment with his girlfriend. He graduated from a technical college with an Associate's degree in Computer Maintenance. He works for a school district as a computer technician. Elijah is almost 18 years old. He is hearing impaired, has Tourette Syndrome, OCD and ADHD. He is a junior in high school. Elijah lives with his mom Mary and her wife, his stepmom. Mary has a bachelor's in deaf education and a masters in special education, and is an educational diagnostician. Life is always changing and this blog has chronicled many of these changes and will continue to do so!

Sunday, March 21, 2010

Don't Judge Me

Someone posted about the Medicaid buy in program on a local message board for our town. I posted some information on it. Someone suggested I try CHIPS for my son(a buy in insurance program) but he doesn't qualify because I have insurance on him. Plus, it isn't the best of insurance as many doctors don't take it. I posted that I really just needed assistance with the meds since Elijah takes so many medications and they can get expensive. Plust the fact, I am only looking for help with copays since we have insurance and medicaid could act as a secondary insurance.

Well, I guess someone took offense, because they posted "so you expect the taxpayers to pay for your medicaitons?" First of all, it is only for Elijah's meds, not mine or Jacob's meds. Secondly, people who have never dealt with a disabled child, especially one with multiples sometimes hidden disablities, should not judge others on their need for asssistance. Oh it just burned me this morning.

I know there are children with much more severe disablities, but his nuerological disability(tourette syndrome, OCD and ADHD) should not be taken lightly either. It interferes with how he functions in the world and how he interacts with people. If he doesn't take his meds, he cannot function in society. I would like nothing better than for him NOT to need these medicaitons, but he cannot function without them. The amount of money I spend on meds is outrageous. I never even applied for medicaid or SSI until my husband left.Plus he is asthmatic and deaf.

I guess some people just don't get it.


  1. Ugh, hate people like that. You just can't judge someone until you've walked a mile in his/her shoes.