Jacob and Elijah Shaddox are brothers. Jacob is 21 years old and just moved into an apartment with his girlfriend. He graduated from a technical college with an Associate's degree in Computer Maintenance. He works for a school district as a computer technician. Elijah is almost 18 years old. He is hearing impaired, has Tourette Syndrome, OCD and ADHD. He is a junior in high school. Elijah lives with his mom Mary and her wife, his stepmom. Mary has a bachelor's in deaf education and a masters in special education, and is an educational diagnostician. Life is always changing and this blog has chronicled many of these changes and will continue to do so!

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Growing Up!

Elijah is finally beginning to show some signs of maturity, meaning he is beginning to show signs of acting more his age. I have assigned him a few more chores like filling up the cat bowl with cat food and unloading the dishwasher. The dishwasher started with doing the utensils and Jacob doing the rest of the dishwasher. Elijah has finally grown a bit taller and can do the whole dishwasher with very little help. There are a few things that he cannot reach and he does need help with those but overall he is doing an awesome job with the dishwasher. Once he is done, Jacob comes in behind him and loads the dishwasher. Jacob was HAPPY to give over the chore of unloading the dishwasher.

I am also working on Elijah learning to use a key to unlock the doors to the house. I need to work on his telephone skills next.

Elijah seems quite proud of himself when he accomplishes a task. He earns tickets for doing his chores which he can trade in for Wii or computer time.

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Another Milestone for Jacob!

For serveral months Jacob has had some HAIR on his chin, but not quite enough to shave. He got an electric razor for Christmas, but had not used it yet. He recently started getting beard hair on the side of his face. He has not wanted to shave it, and I really was not sure why. Well today he came in from school, in his ROTC uniform and said, "FEEL my face!" I took one look and realized he had shaved. He had done it all on his own this morning after I left for work. As far as I can tell, he did a good job! Where does the time go? I still remember his first hair cut and the first time he walked. Now he is shaving!

Thursday, March 17, 2011

It's Not Easy!

It's not easy living with a child with Tourette Syndrome, OCD and ADHD. I group them together because for Elijah they all go hand in hand. Now tics are the most obvious thing about Tourette Syndrome. For the most part, Elijah's tics are not too bad. However the last few days they have been, and we have been home for Spring Break so I never get a break. I know he can't help it, but at some point the noises can drive you insane. He has also been a bit more arguementative and not good about following directions. All of this leads to my patience thinning over time.

Today we went to the pulmanologist. He was just all over the place on the drive there. I had errands to run and those took about 90 minutes after the two hour doctor's appointment. It was for both boys so that is one reason it took so long. Elijah was better during the errands. We then get home and are home for about two hours when he spills something on his shirt. Ok no problem, we will just change his shirt. Well he goes to take off his processors and mentions that ONE of them has a missing battery cage. Now I ask him WHEN did he notice it not working and he of course, doesn't answer. We look all over the house and then I call the doctor's office and they find it in the examining room and will mail it to me. This means from at least NOON to 4:00 he was walking around NOT hearing out of that one ear and NOT telling me that he couldn't hear. ARGHHHHHHH! I totally thinks this goes to immaturity and anxiety of knowing losing it means he gets in trouble, but if he would tell me right away we could find it. I am still amazed they found it at the doctor's office.

Sunday, March 13, 2011

Lost "ear" again!

Ok, so the "ear" was only lost for about five minutes, but still IT WAS LOST. Bye "ear" I mean Elijah's cochlear implant processor. I awoke to him turning on the Wii and getting ready to play. He looks at me and says, "where is my ear?" I notice that ONE processor is on but not the other. I ask and sign WHERE and we head to his room. We find it right there on his floor! I then start talking to him about being careful with his EARS when I realize HE hasn't turned them on. I then sign to him to TURN THE DARN THINGS ON and he does. I unplug the Wii and we have a chat that when he PUTS his ears on HE needs to TURN them on! ARGH! He does this a lot. He puts them on but doesn't turn them on. Well, from now on if I catch him with them ON but not turned on the Wii goes away for a few hours. He will even call me from another room with them turned off and I answer him back thinking he can hear me! UGH! That really drives me crazy.

He loves being able to hear and I don't mind that he has times where he wants to be deaf. If he is going to do that then, he needs to COME and find me and talk to me so I sign to him AND not lose them!

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Ghosts Don't Need Candles!

Elijah has been watching a lot of Scooby Doo lately on ON DEMAND on our cable television. He just LOVES Scooby Doo! For some reason he has locked onto a line from one of the episodes that he just loves to say and he think is SO funny. It is, "Ghosts don't need candles." The whole gang sees the ghost and believes it is a real ghost until one of them says, "ghosts don't need candles." The ghost was carrying a candle, so I guess that was that person's way of showing the ghost wasn't real! He will say it to me and just laugh out loud. I think it is pretty funny myself!