THE SHADDOX BOYS
Jacob and Elijah Shaddox are brothers. Jacob is 21 years old and just moved into an apartment with his girlfriend. He graduated from a technical college with an Associate's degree in Computer Maintenance. He works for a school district as a computer technician. Elijah is almost 18 years old. He is hearing impaired, has Tourette Syndrome, OCD and ADHD. He is a junior in high school. Elijah lives with his mom Mary and her wife, his stepmom. Mary has a bachelor's in deaf education and a masters in special education, and is an educational diagnostician. Life is always changing and this blog has chronicled many of these changes and will continue to do so!
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Learning to Listen
I am not talking about Elijah and his "ears" today. The person who has had to learn to listen in the last few months has been me. One thing I have had to learn about myself is that sometimes I am so busy trying to say what I need to say that I don't listen well enough. Sometimes LESS is MORE when you are trying to get your point across. This is somethings I have known for a long time and something I have really had to work on in the last few months. I have OCD myself and I don't know if it is that or just my personality, but sometimes I just NEED to shut my mouth and listen.
I also think I have become more aware of it now that I am the director of the deaf ed. program that I work in. I am the boss now, and I have to set the example of how to listen and how to jump in and help out. Sometimes even if you are right about something, you can lose the battle because of how you present your case.
I think this is something about myself that I will always need to be aware of and continue to work on. It has gotten easier to tell myself to "be quiet", but there are times when I think my OCD kicks in and I just can't shut up no matter how hard I try. Those are the times I really have got to see myself and just shut up. I guess I am on the right track....acknowledging the problem is the first step, right?