I was speaking to my exhusband about a week ago and he decided to ask me if I was going to start dating at all. He left last June and the divorce was final in Aug. of last year. We have joint custody of the boys, but basically when it really comes
to it I HAVE FULL CUSTODY.
I was surprised he asked and basically told him that NO I was not dating and was not planning on dating. IF it happens, it happens. I am not going to go and seek it out. Both of these boys are a full time job.....Elijah is a job and a half...haha. I am not opposed to dating, I am just not going to actively seek it out. It is hard enough for me to deal with things and I don't need to worry about how someone else is going to deal with my children. I don't need someone coming in and making things worse or who would want me to put my kids second to him. I am going to do what is right for my family, not what is right for just me. Now I'll take care of myself, make sure I make time for myself and see friends. I guess I just take the job of being mom very seriously and I am glad to do it. My boys are worth it.
THE SHADDOX BOYS
Jacob and Elijah Shaddox are brothers. They live with their mom, Mary, who is the writer of this blog. Jacob is 19 and is now four inches taller than his mom! He also has ADHD and gorgeous red hair. He is a freshman at a technical college studying computer maintenance. Elijah is 15! He is in 9th grade and he is not in ROTC at his high school. He also had red hair, but it is lighter and not as thick as his brother's hair. He is hearing impaired(auditory neuropathy) and wears two cochlear implants. He also has tourette syndrome, ADHD, OCD and anxiety! Mary just started her 25th year as a teacher of the deaf. She is also in her last semester of graduate school to be a diagnostician! She will graduate in December of 2015!