Jacob and Elijah Shaddox are brothers. They live with their mom, Mary, who is the writer of this blog. Jacob is 19 and is now four inches taller than his mom! He also has ADHD and gorgeous red hair. He is a freshman at a technical college studying computer maintenance. Elijah is 15! He is in 9th grade and he is not in ROTC at his high school. He also had red hair, but it is lighter and not as thick as his brother's hair. He is hearing impaired(auditory neuropathy) and wears two cochlear implants. He also has tourette syndrome, ADHD, OCD and anxiety! Mary just started her 25th year as a teacher of the deaf. She is also in her last semester of graduate school to be a diagnostician! She will graduate in December of 2015!

Sunday, April 4, 2010

It's Just Not Fair

OK, I just need to vent for a minute and let off some steam. I am not aggravated at Elijah, more at the situation.

For whatever reason tonight, he brings up our cat Ridgeway, who died in November 2008. This is over a year ago. He has been going to sleep with no problems since I can't even remember, but not tonight. Tonight I can hear him crying in his room. He mentions Ridgeway and how he misses him. Now you must realize, at this point he cannot hear me. I sign to him that I miss the cat too and it is time to go to sleep. He says YES and I leave after a few hugs and kisses. About ten minutes later I hear him sobbing in his room and so I go back in. He says I LOVE YOU MOM....I miss Ridgeway. I took him a melatonin pill and I put his processor back on. I am stern and tell him he must go to sleep or no computer for tomorrow. I tell him that Ridgeway did die and is in heaven, but NOW it is time to go to sleep. I hate to be so stern, but he doesn't GET IT when I am nice about going to sleep.

It just isn't fair that on top of having Tourettes with OCD, ADHD and anxeity that he has to be DEAF. With his implants he can hear, but there are SOME situations that he cannot....bathtime, swimming, and bedtime are the main times that I can think of. He does know some sign so I can sign to him, and he does talk back to me, but NOT enough sign for us to have a REALLY good conversation. It just isn't fair that he is deaf AND Tourettes, OCD, ADHD and anxiety. I consider that second grouping ONE neurological condition.

I am thankful that he does have such a good language set. His language skills are good, don't get me wrong, but there are times when it is NOT good enough.

OK, my vent is done and I feel better!

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