The Shaddox Boys: Dating

THE SHADDOX BOYS

Jacob and Elijah Shaddox are brothers. Jacob is 21 years old and just moved into an apartment with his girlfriend. He graduated from a technical college with an Associate's degree in Computer Maintenance. He works for a school district as a computer technician. Elijah is almost 18 years old. He is hearing impaired, has Tourette Syndrome, OCD and ADHD. He is a junior in high school. Elijah lives with his mom Mary and her wife, his stepmom. Mary has a bachelor's in deaf education and a masters in special education, and is an educational diagnostician. Life is always changing and this blog has chronicled many of these changes and will continue to do so!

Saturday, February 20, 2010

Dating

I was speaking to my exhusband about a week ago and he decided to ask me if I was going to start dating at all. He left last June and the divorce was final in Aug. of last year. We have joint custody of the boys, but basically when it really comes
to it I HAVE FULL CUSTODY.

I was surprised he asked and basically told him that NO I was not dating and was not planning on dating. IF it happens, it happens. I am not going to go and seek it out. Both of these boys are a full time job.....Elijah is a job and a half...haha. I am not opposed to dating, I am just not going to actively seek it out. It is hard enough for me to deal with things and I don't need to worry about how someone else is going to deal with my children. I don't need someone coming in and making things worse or who would want me to put my kids second to him. I am going to do what is right for my family, not what is right for just me. Now I'll take care of myself, make sure I make time for myself and see friends. I guess I just take the job of being mom very seriously and I am glad to do it. My boys are worth it.